On August 21, 2008, I found out that our second son Robert had died while I was still pregnant; I delivered him still the following morning. From that moment I knew that my life had changed forever and I began a new journey of loss and grieving. I’ve spent the last few years steering
through the pain of missing my son, post-partum and situational depression, Unexplained Secondary Infertility and
finding a “new normal" after the loss of a baby.
My search began then for any resources about loss and I
found myself desperate to connect with others who had experienced a similar
loss. Through my quest I discovered the site October15th.com. It was
here that I learned about the journey of loss of October 15th
Founder and President, Robyn Bear. Robyn and the entire staff of October 15th
have worked tirelessly to provide support to grieving parents who’ve
experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth, an ectopic pregnancy, or the loss of an
infant. One of their main goals is “To inform and educate the public about pregnancy
and infant loss so they can better learn how to respond with compassion to
affected families.” (October15th.com, Our Goals)
In February 2009, I began to
chronicle my journey of loss in a blog titled, Remembering Our Robert. I must
admit that when I began this journey after losing Robert, I selfishly
wanted to work on my own healing. But I soon found out just how amazing it can be when you put yourself "out there" and become vulnerable; you may be given the opportunity to impact others around you.
As I approached the one-year anniversary of Robert’s death,
I began to search for ways that I could bring honor to the memory of my son and
to bring further healing to my family. After finding that there was no major
event in the Raleigh, NC area for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, October 15th
Raleigh began to take shape.
My hope for this memorial event is that parents throughout the Triangle can connect with other parents who’ve
experienced a loss and for each person to know that they are not alone. Even more,
October 15th Raleigh is an effort to honor the memory of all the "little ones" we’ve lost
too soon.
Katy Moyer
Organizer, October 15th Raleigh
In Loving Memory of Robert Moyer
~ August 21, 2008 ~
A special thanks to the following:
To Bobby, The Love of my Life ~ I couldn't have made it through this without you.
To Mason, my sweet boy. I'm so blessed to be your mom.
To the Moyer & Karr Families ~ I love you all.
To Mom ~ I'm so blessed to have you in my life.
To AnnaMarie ~ Your friendship is invaluable
and our lives are forever twined by August 21, 2008. Love you, girl!
To Steph, Beth, Teena, Colleen, Susan, Amy
& all my girls ~ Thanks for your love, support & friendship.
To my friends at Journey Church & especially our Small Group ~
You've prayed & loved us through it all & I'm forever grateful!
And to my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ ~
You are my hope and I trust you completely.
Jeremiah 29:11
